Give up unrealistic expectations by understanding the true definition of love, fulfilment and perfection. In all your relationships, understand that it’s impossible to be positive about them all the time. Comparing our reality to the ‘happily ever after’ romantic ideal is the cause of all our unhappiness!
A few tips:
Stop being so self-righteous.
You probably have the same trait or do the very thing that bothers you. They might be stingy with money and you might be stingy with time. The world is your mirror: consider what it’sreflecting about you and you’ll gain valuable insights that will bring you down off your self-righteous pedestal.
This one simple act can change your life. Ask for what you want, whether it is acknowledgement, affection, a promotion, an increase, help, assistance, or a break! Stop expecting people to anticipate your needs or read your mind. Help people to help you so you don’t simmer with resentment when they don’t.
Be present in the now. Rather than worrying about what may happen in the future. The only thing that we know for sure is what is happening to us in the present.
Identify one action.
One you can take today to feel more in control of your life. It can be tiny – cleaning the car, doing the filing, throwing out old clothes; anything that is quick, easy and gives a sense of action and achievement. If we feel empowered, we feel healthy and strong and less stressed.
Every day, look around you and identify what you are grateful for – the sunshine, the fresh flowers on your desk, the sound of the birds, the coffee you just drank… Being grateful makes us happier by encouraging us to appreciate what we have in life.
When you are in the shower, be mindful of the sensations of the water on your skin, notice when your mind is being pulled into your ten o’clock meeting, or what to feed the kids, and take your awareness back to the sensations in your body.
When you are eating, just eat: our minds can be so distracted that we miss the tastes, textures and sensations of our food. Practise slowing down your eating and really tasting what is in your mouth.
Let go of guilt.
As weird as it may seem, ask yourself whether you are your own worst enemy in that you do not believe you deserve to be happy and to have life go well for you. Let go of any guilt associated with being happy and embrace it.
Take a baby step.
If there is something you want to do or become, why not think about taking one small baby step towards it? It will give you such a sense of accomplishment and joy that it can fuel your desire to take the next step. If you want to start a business, what is the one small step you can take to get your first client without drawing up a business plan or having a business card?
Be kind to someone.
Scientists have found that the nicer you are to the world, the nicer the world is to you. So make someone’s day.